Fixed Focus

Human’s often maintain fixed images of people, places, and things. It’s in our nature.

No matter how much someone or something evolves or grows, others may hold tightly to a previous image. It may feel futile to chase and convince them to see via an upgraded lens.

We then feel disappointed or hurt, and it causes confusion and doubt about the progress we have made.

And so, the cycle of “disengaged engagement” continues, with little more than a topical, or sometimes even negative exchange.

They aren’t “against” you.

They aren’t “for” you.

They just aren’t really WITH you.

It may not be intentional, it may not even be a conscious choice on their part, but it’s a reality nonetheless.

It’s benign, but we CHOOSE to feel it as malignant.

When OUR expectations don’t match someone else’s reality, hurt sets in.

Either accept the situation for what it is or let it go with love.

The vacuum you 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘬 you feel is an illusion – as nothing has likely been present for some time.

Find people who celebrate you, not tolerate you. And when you do, treasure them.

They may be few and far between, but are always worth the wait. ❤️

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